Hello, gorgeous! I know, I know. The promise was to write every week, and it has been a month. But, I have my reasons. And a good one. I'd been travelling a little over the last month and then got busy setting up my new business. Yup! I, along with some fantastic people, decided to turn our passion for dancing into our profession. And we started with choreographing for Mercedes-Benz Research and Development India. All of this in about three weeks. So, that meant no sleep and a lot of work. But it was a mesmerising experience.
Last month, I was sitting in a shack on a beach in Goa, sipping on my Irish coffee (sounds dramatic, doesn't it?). I was observing the people and all they were doing. A few were walking along the shore with their friends or better halves. A few were clicking pictures. But there was this couple who I believe thought they were in a movie or something. It didn't seem like they were newly married but certainly acted like it. After taking a few pictures, they drew a heart on the sand. You know, like how they do in the movies. And then took some more pictures standing inside that heart. Evidently, they had a lot of love for each other or for enacting some Bollywood drama. But, more importantly, it seemed like they were comfortable in their being and didn't give a shit about what others might think.
A majority of us mould our actions in public just because we think it might look weird or people might take us for fools. Well, if you weren't aware, everyone around you thinks you are a fool. But the good part is that there are tons of fools people encounter on a daily, and no one would remember you for doing something weird. Even if you peed your pants, they'd laugh about it for a few days and then move on. Try it if you don't believe me. Go on.
The thing is, it is people's job to make judgements about others' actions. But they forget about them as quickly as they make them. On the other hand, it is our job to do what we want to do or are supposed to do and leave the thinking part to others. I read a phrase somewhere that says "agar log kya sochenge yeh bhi tum sochoge to log kya sochenge?", which loosely translates to "if you start thinking about what people will think, what would people think?" Basically, let people do their job and you do yours.
Look as stupid as you want. Walk as funny as you want. Your clothes won't define you. Your phone, your brand-new Nike dunks, or that expensive Apple Watch Ultra would never define you as a person. What matters is how you feel about yourself and how you make others around you feel. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin. Everyone around will have something to say about you. If you start giving a fuck about all of them, when will you live freely?
Take a look at the kids around you. They'd do the stupidest things and wouldn't bat an eye on others around. What's it to them? They enjoy their time to the fullest. Sure, as we grow up we have things to take care of. But that doesn't mean we stop enjoying our time. We think we have a reputation to maintain. But when we would be on our deathbeds, it wouldn't be our reputation that we'd think about. It would probably be the time we lost thinking about others' opinions of us that we'd regret.
Now, I know it's all easier said than done. But, if this ignites even the tiniest of sparks in you and makes you consider taking a step towards liberation, we're golden!